Parts Work Meditation For The Part of You That Believes It’s Unlovable
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For the Part of You That Believes It’s Unlovable
Most of us carry a quiet belief somewhere inside that we are unlovable, fundamentally flawed, or that there’s just something wrong with us. This belief is rarely spoken out loud. Often, it isn’t even fully conscious. But it shapes how we relate to ourselves, how close we let others get, and how much ease or tension we carry inside as we move through the world.
In my work with hundreds of people over the years, this theme shows up again and again when we slow down and go beneath surface-level patterns. No matter how self-aware, insightful, or emotionally intelligent someone is, there is often a deeper layer where this belief lives. A layer that says, “There’s something about me that makes me unworthy of love or belonging.”
And most people assume they are alone in it. So many of us believe that there truly is something uniquely wrong with us. But, the truth is, that this is a very common human wound. And it definitely doesn’t mean that you are unlovable.
The Hidden Ways This Wound Shapes Our Lives
When a part of us carries the belief that we are unlovable, our system does a lot of work to protect us from feeling that pain directly. Many of our familiar patterns and coping strategies are organized around keeping this wound from being activated.
We might people-please and overextend ourselves so we don’t risk rejection. We might hide our true feelings, needs, or desires. We might overfunction, striving to be good enough, useful enough, or impressive enough to compensate for what we fear is lacking. Or we might pull away and keep our distance, deciding it’s safer not to need too much at all.
These strategies often make a lot of sense when you see them through this lens. They truly aren’t signs of weakness or dysfunction. They’re simply attempts to protect a very tender place inside.
But over time, living this way can be exhausting. Constantly bracing against the possibility of being exposed or rejected takes a toll, especially when the pain underneath has never really been met.
Feeling Unlovable Is a Common Core Wound
One of the most important things to name is this: this belief is not yours alone. The fear that we are uniquely flawed or unlovable is a very common human wound. And carrying it doesn’t mean that you actually ARE unlovable or bad.
It means that somewhere along the way, this conclusion took shape, and it has been influencing your inner world ever since.
Naming this directly can be surprisingly relieving. Not because it makes the pain disappear, but because it brings this part out of isolation. When something that has lived quietly in the background is finally acknowledged, there’s often a sense of space or acceptance that wasn’t there before.
Why Turning Toward This Part Matters
This is also why I created a meditation specifically for this part of you.
The part that believes it is unlovable has often been carrying that pain for many years, sometimes for decades, without much support. Holding that kind of belief internally can shape how we feel about ourselves in subtle but persistent ways. It can color our self-talk, our relationships, and our sense of ease in the world.
When we turn toward this part with real curiosity and compassion, something important can happen. Being seen and understood in a direct, embodied way can begin to relieve some of the burden it has been holding. When that burden eases, even slightly, it can soften something very deep inside. And that softening can change how we feel about ourselves from the inside, not because we’ve convinced ourselves of anything, but because our inner experience has shifted.
A Parts Work Meditation for the Part That Feels Unlovable
In this parts work meditation, I guide you to gently connect with the part of you that feels unlovable and to offer it what it has been missing for a long time: deep listening, acceptance, and support.
This meditation utilizes Regenerating Images in Memory®, a somatic emotional processing technique that helps us access the deeper layers where these wounded parts live and hold their pain. Rather than working only at the level of insight or understanding, this approach allows you to meet this part in a way that is felt and embodied.
Through this practice, it becomes possible to loosen the grip of this old belief, reduce the intensity of the shame it carries, and begin building a more supportive relationship with yourself. It is not about fixing or erasing this part. It is about meeting it with enough presence and care that it no longer has to carry its pain alone.
If this is a place you recognize in yourself, I hope this meditation feels like a gentle and compassionate way to begin turning toward it.
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Episode timing:
00:00 - We all feel unlovable sometimes…
04:09 - Quick announcements
06:01 - Parts Work Meditation For The Part of You That Believes It’s Unlovable
40:11 - Conclusion and Reflections
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